Episode 60: Singing in the Car Without a Care

Have you ever caught yourself holding back out of fear of judgment, especially when you're all alone? I can relate! On this episode of the One Girl Travel Podcast, I reveal a personal transformation that took place on my solo travels - one that led me to reclaim my voice, singing my heart out in the car without a care in the world. This journey of self-discovery and self-acceptance is likely to strike a chord with many of you, as we all have our own versions of 'singing in the car.'

As we embark on the last month of 2023, we take a moment to reflect and show gratitude for our individual achievements, while also preparing for the adventures that 2024 has in store. Not only do we reflect, but we also share powerful hacks that will make your solo travel experience smoother and more enjoyable. So, whether you're a seasoned solo traveler or contemplating your first solo trip, join us as we travel, grow, and express ourselves without inhibition. Remember, solo travel isn't just about the destination, but the journey of self-discovery. Get set to embrace the liberating experience of unapologetic self-expression with One Girl Travel.

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Chapters

• 0:00 Solo Travel and Self-Discovery
• 13:16 One Girl Travel Podcast Announcement

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Welcome to the One Girl Travel Podcast, episode number 60.

Speaker 2: 0:04

Welcome to the One Girl Travel Podcast, your passport to the world of solo travel With certified life and travel coach, alessia Tenabrusso. Join Alessia as she shares her own journey of self-discovery through solo travel, while also focusing on topics such as life coaching insights and travel tips along the way. Now here's your host, alessia Tenabrusso.

Speaker 1: 0:31

Hello, my friends, and welcome to episode number 60 of the One Girl Travel Podcast. Happy December. We're here in the last month of 2023 and for me, this year flew by. It has gone so fast and I don't know. I think I'm excited to wrap up this year. I'm excited to reflect on this year because sometimes it's really hard to notice and really appreciate everything you've achieved in a year when you're still busy and you're still doing a million things. So I hope you also take some time to reflect on your year and also plan for next year, which I'm looking forward to. I took some days off from my corporate job so I can focus and just get started with planning for a fresh year. Starting a new year is always so exciting and I'm really looking forward to 2024 and I'm excited to share with you updates that will be coming up soon and, yeah, really looking forward to it.

Speaker 1: 1:41

But since it is December, that means that there is a brand new edition of the One Girl Travel newsletter that you need to get your hands on. So if you are not already subscribed to my mailing list, what are you waiting for? Go to OneGirlTravelcom, sign up, get the December edition of the newsletter. It has everything from my favorite solo travel themed holiday movies. It has Breakthrough your Limiting Beliefs workbook. It has a playlist for you. It has some of my favorite holiday favorite things shopping guide. There's a bunch of really fun stuff in there for you, and I love putting together a newsletter. That was my first baby when it came to producing something for my community and I really I love putting it together for you every month. So make sure you get your hands on it, because once a month passes, those newsletters get archived and only the One Girl Travel Club members have access to every edition of the newsletter I ever put out. So that is also incentive for you to check out the One Girl Travel Club, where this month we are focusing on travel hacking 101. I am sharing my favorite travel hacks for just streamlining your traveling and getting the most out of your experience, making it easier for yourself, and I'm so excited to be sharing all that information with my members and I would love if you considered joining us in the membership. I also want to remind you that the One Girl Travel Club is not just for coaching on travel. I coach my members on absolutely anything and everything, and there is no limit to what you can get coaching on within the membership. So if one-on-one coaching isn't something that you're interested in, but a group session is, the One Girl Travel Club is for you, because I will help you with whatever it is you need, from coaching for travel to going out on your own and trying something new, to starting up a social media account or a new business. Whatever it is, I'm here for you. So go check it out OneGirlTravelcom. I'd love to coach you.

Speaker 1: 4:03

And let's get into today's podcast episode, which is something that I kind of had. A lightning bolt hit me while I was commuting to work one day and I realized that I no longer stop singing in the car when I pull up to other cars. Now hear me out, because in the past I love singing when I'm in the car, like I. I just find it so therapeutic, especially when you have a long commute. Like I love just singing on the top of my lungs when I'm driving. But in the past, if I ever pulled up to a red light where there are multiple lanes of traffic, I would always stop singing, because I was always worried about what the car next to me might think, if I look stupid or if they might judge me or I don't know. I don't know what thought would come up, but a lot of thoughts would come up over the years and I would always stop singing and I would always like hope for the light to change so I can continue on my journey and continue singing. And I realize that now I do keep singing. I don't worry about the cars next to me, I don't worry about what they think, and that's the theme for today's podcast. It's singing the car, and I know that might not sound travel related, but honestly it's something that solo travel has helped me get comfortable with. Solo travel has allowed me to feel comfortable with myself and do the things that I enjoy without worrying about what anybody else thinks of me.

Speaker 1: 5:43

I have become unapologetically myself in every way possible, and it's attributed to the act of solo traveling because, as I mentioned previously on other podcast episodes, I was not comfortable doing things with myself. I wasn't comfortable with myself, if you really want to get down to the bottom line. I was not comfortable with myself. I would talk negatively, I would hold myself back from doing the things I wanted to do, I would worry about other people's judgment of me all the time. But then I decided I needed to get my life back. I needed to learn who I was, and I took that first solo trip. And when you're solo traveling, when you're doing something that is so far outside of your comfort zone, you learn that you need to support yourself, you need to advocate for yourself, you need to cheer yourself on and have your own back. And that didn't come easily at first. It took time because, let me tell you, the negative self-talk was absolutely present on those first few trips. But then I realized what I needed to do for myself. If I wanted to have a good time, if I wanted to keep going, if I wanted to enjoy myself, I needed to speak kindly, I needed to have my own back, and I learned to do that.

Speaker 1: 7:05

And when you are secure with yourself, when you know your own self, when you are secure with yourself, when you know your reason for why you want to do things and you're very much okay with those reasons, then it doesn't matter what anybody else thinks, it doesn't matter what other people's opinion of you are. It's on you. You get to decide how do you want to live your life, how do you want to show up for yourself and your life, and you have to be okay with other people not being okay with it. And when you are at that point, that's when you just feel free and you don't care. And you sing in your car when there's other people next to you and you sing loud because you enjoy it. It makes you feel good and, honestly, who cares what anybody else thinks? Now I'm using the singing in the car example, but I want you to think of an example for yourself In your life.

Speaker 1: 8:04

What's something that you really enjoy that maybe you don't do as often because you're worried about judgment from others? Identify what that thing is and how do you feel when you're doing it. Hopefully you feel good, hopefully it makes you feel happy. And then think about why don't you do it as often? Whose judgments are you worried about? It could be a friend, family, it could be a stranger co-worker, whatever. And Then I want you to think about it what's the worst thing that can happen If you do that thing and somebody judges you for it? Honestly, what is the worst thing that can happen? They might be mean to you, they might talk behind your back, they may make fun of you, but I want to remind you that their thoughts about it are their thoughts. If they have anything negatives to say to you about something that you enjoy, that's their own reflection. They're reflecting their limiting beliefs onto you because maybe they're scared to do something that they love, because they're embarrassed. That's the only reason and and, honestly, you cannot read anybody's mind, you don't know what they're thinking, but it doesn't matter what they're thinking. They're not living your life. You're living your life, and you need to learn to live your life without worrying about other people's judgments of you.

Speaker 1: 9:35

So for this new year as we have a few weeks left before it begins Maybe make a list of all the things that bring you joy, that you love doing but don't allow yourself to do as often and Write down how can you do it more, how can you incorporate those things into your life more often for the new year, or even if you can get some in before the new year, that'd be great too. But really think about why you love doing those things. And then, what's stopping you, what's holding you back? Because you need to break through that. You need to stop caring about what other people think of you if you want to live your most authentic life, and that's why my coaching program is so important because then I can work with you. We can identify those things that you do love, identify why you're not doing it and work together to break through and have you start living the life that you desire for yourself and make the world your playground. Have fun with your life that's what this is all about.

Speaker 1: 10:42

Why bother living a life that you don't enjoy? Gotta start living. We're heading into a new year. That's exciting stuff. The possibilities are endless for you. So let's get started, and I can't wait to share the things that I am personally working on. That I can't share right now, but my goal, when it does come time to share, is To inspire you to take big action, because, yeah, it's scary it's really scary to take big action and do things you've never done before and also Unconditionally believe in yourself that you can make it work, even though on paper it might not seem that it is possible. Have your back so hard that you're willing to risk a lot for yourself and your dreams. And, yeah, all I can say is exciting things are coming, and I hope the same for you in your life.

Speaker 1: 11:50

So this podcast up, so it's gonna be on the shorter side because I want you to go check out the newsletter and Dive into all that information. If you don't have a copy of the newsletter, go to one girl travel calm and sign up for it. When you sign up, you're also gonna get my 10 tips on how to begin solo traveling guide for free as a thank you for being a part of my community, being a part of my mailing list. And my final note is to remind you that there is still one spot left for the one girl travel group trip to Italy. Unfortunately, one of my members had a event come up so she had to cancel the trip, and that means the spot is available for you.

Speaker 1: 12:30

If you have wanted to take a trip to Europe, to Italy specifically, and You're telling yourself I'm gonna do it, I'm gonna do it, and then it never happens, you haven't done it yet. This is the opportunity. You're gonna be traveling with me and a group of incredible women that I personally know most of them, and I Can vouch and say that this is the most amazing group of women in the world. And If you have questions about the trip or reach out to me, you can write to me at contact at one girl travel calm. I'll answer any questions you have, but I'm so excited for what's to come, I'm so excited to take you all traveling with me, and I will talk to you next week. Enjoy December, enjoy this first week, and I will see you soon. My friends, have a great day.

Speaker 2: 13:25

Thanks so much for tuning in to this episode of the one girl travel podcast. If you're enjoying the show, please feel free to rate, subscribe and leave a review wherever you listen to your podcasts, you can find out more about your host on our website, one girl travel calm, or follow her on Instagram, facebook, pinterest and TikTok. Thanks again for tuning in and we'll catch you in the next episode.